“If love becomes freedom, then there is no need to separate. “Rising in love, you become aware that the other has his own territorial imperative, and you are not to encroach upon it. They had fallen in love with a person who was not touched by their ideas - “Change this and that.” They don’t know that if the person really changes, their love will disappear, because they had not fallen in love with this changed person in the first place. It is one of the miseries of the world that lovers are continuously trying to change the other person. As the love grows deeper, you start accepting the person as he is. As the love grows deeper, freedom becomes bigger. It is soft, it is unbinding - because how can love create fetters for the one who is loved? It is giving freedom to each other, more and more. “Love should come out of your silence, awareness, meditativeness. But the love I am talking about is the only insight that is easily available to everyone. “Biology is blind, that’s why love is called blind. “Falling in love is something biological. And the moment you start separating, all those entanglements, your promises, the other’s promises, create the complexity. But when those moments are gone - and they will be gone, because it has been a fall, and nobody can remain in a fallen state for eternity. “You go on giving promises to each other… and it is not that you are lying or deceiving in those beautiful moments those promises seem to be absolutely coming from your heart. But when you want to separate, the days, the nights, the years that you have lived together, loved together, experienced something which is one of the most beautiful gifts of nature - you go on becoming entangled. You are clean, the other person is clean. “When you fall in love, no questions arise. Those are the things which make it difficult to separate. Falling in love - that love is going to be disrupted somewhere, and the sooner it is understood that it is gone, the better otherwise you become too entangled in a thousand and one things. “Anybody who rises in love never falls from it, because rising is your effort, and the love that is grown through your effort is within your hands. And two grown-up persons don’t quarrel they try to understand, they try to solve any problem. Rising in love ultimately helps you to become grown-up. “Rising in love means a learning, a changing, a maturity. Try to rise.” And rising in love is a totally different matter. Nobody asks that, because if you had asked that I would have suggested, “Never fall in love.
#OSHO ON LOVE HOW TO#
This is strange! For thirty-five years I have been waiting for somebody to ask me how to fall in love. And the man can find his own gymnastics, how to do it. The man, to be really manly, should give his shoulders for the woman to rise up and get out of the ditch. It had come like a breeze, you enjoyed those moments be thankful to each other and help each other to come out of the ditch. There is no need to hate each other, because nobody has destroyed it - nobody has created it. “A little understanding is needed on both sides, that the love is no longer there.
And it is good that it comes and goes, because if it stays it becomes stale. But it is like a breeze, it comes and goes. It was not in your power not to fall, so when it comes, it takes you with it. A simple thing has to be understood: love - the love that you are talking about - is not in your hands. “And it will happen - all these tears and conflicts, but nothing can bring the love back. The easier step you have done, now you have to do the difficult one. Falling down is easy, keep it for the next step for the first step, always use rising. Rising in love is beautiful, and getting out of it is very easy, because that will be falling down.
“In the first place, when you start falling in love, when you are still not in the ditch, that is the time to ask me, because I have a totally different kind of love affair which is called rising in love. Nobody wants to hurt but because he is hurting, she is hurting, unknowingly they go on dumping their hurt feelings on the other. Then there is quarreling, argument, nagging, and every kind of nastiness from both sides. Once the love disappears the ditch becomes hell. I don’t want to hurt the person i was once in love with cause its not like there aren’t any feelings left. Why Is It so Difficult to Fall out of Love?Īfter repeated discussions, fights and overwhelming flow of emotions we can’t find a resolve to the lost love.
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